mental health

The Best Kind of Stress Reliever with Teliah Gienger

 

In This Episode…

  • Reframe your stress (it’s not all bad)
  • Listen to your body while it’s talking (instead of waiting until it screams)
  • Look at challenges as an opportunity to grow

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Key Points

Stress is a part of life, and trying to get rid of all stress can stress you out even more! A better way is learning to manage stress instead of running away from it.

Stress is not always bad. It can alert you to things that are not good in your life, and motivate you to make changes.

In any venture or area of life, our success begins with a healthy mindset. – Teliah Gienger

Our bodies will naturally let us know when something is wrong, but its not always something drastic that happens, like a siren going off to get our attention. The signs it gives slowly build up until we can’t ignore them.

 

What You Can Do

Reframe challenges as an opportunity to grow.

Being in touch with your body allows you to become more aware of how things affect you.

 

Connect with My Guest

Teliah Gienger, Entrepreneur, Coach and Podcast Host
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Email – teliah@thebalancingactpodcast.com (Podcast Inquiries) or teliahgienger@gmail.com (All other inquiries)

 

Links and Resources

Forthcoming:

3-day yoga retreat in August 2017

40 Days to Healthy Habits by Teliah Gienger (an ebook focusing on nutrition, physical health, mental health through meditation, journaling, emotional and spiritual health, and lifestyle changes).

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Getting Out of the Panic Room with Gina Ryan

In This Episode…

 

  • Why you MUST label your issue
  • How mindful breathing and meditation help patch the places where you are leaking energy
  • Why a high fat low carb diet can be helpful tool in calming our body and reducing panic attacks
  • How to find activities to release stress

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Key Points

Many suffer from stress, anxiety and panic based on things that aren’t real.

FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real

Stress is cumulative. It’s often the straw that breaks the camel’s back—not a big event.

 

By stringing one good day after another like pearls, knowing that if I had one good day I could continue, and eventually, because I had such faith that I was not broken, and that I could recondition my nervous system,
I could get to a point where I really felt like I was on top of life again… and that’s what I did.”

– Gina Ryan, on curing her own chronic anxiety and panic attacks

What You Can Do

 

You must find the language to admit and utter out loud what problem you are having, because you cannot conquer what you can’t confront.

Gina said that what helped her was when she practiced breathing and meditation, and gave up foods that worked against her. You can recondition your brain with proper breathing and meditation techniques. It helps patch the places where you are leaking energy.

Eating fat nourishes your brain and calms your nervous system. Refrain from caffeine and added sugars, especially in drinks. Ingesting caffeine adds extra stress to your body.

Experiment with recipes by changing one ingredient that will improve your nutrition (for example, Daree substituted almond flour instead of regular flour to coating meat before baking, and using erythritol instead of table sugar when making sweet treats). Find something that works for YOU.

Move your body. Whether you dance, play tennis, do Zumba, or go for a walk, moving can help you work out your stress and release toxins in your muscles. Find something that makes you feel good when you’re doing it, and that you’ll look forward to. You can even find free workouts on YouTube.

Keep a journal like a gratitude journal. This turns on a different part of our brain and releases stress in your mind.

 

 

Connect with My Guest

 

Gina Ryan, Nutritionist, Holistic Life & Anxiety Coach, Podcast Host

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Links and Resources

Free 10-Minute Body Scan – http://theanxietycoachespodcast.com/body-scan
Meditation for the Anxious at Heart meditation course – available at the end of April 2017 through the website).

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It’s Not Worth It!

In This Episode…

Living a life of peace is hard to come by, but doable. In this episode, Daree shares 5 things to consider when someone “tries you” or attempts to get on your LAST nerve.

 

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Key Points & What You Can Do

Ask yourself:
1- Is this issue (or this person’s issues) WORTH my peace? Your mental energy is needed for important decisions and situations… is this issue one of them? If so, resolve it as positively as possible and move on.
 
2- What do I have to gain? What will you get out of arguing with this person? Are you talking to someone that only hears themself? Are you talking to a person who thinks that he or she is always right?
 
3- Will this issue really matter in the future? Will this issue affect your relationship and your future for better or worse in a year from now? 5 years? Will you regret it on your deathbed?
 
4- Will my behavior jeopardize my character? If you really want to know someone’s character, watch how they act when they’re angry.  When the smoke clears, you don’t want there to be any evidence that your words and your actions don’t match. And if for some reason you do react out of character, you need to be quick to forgive yourself AND to seek forgiveness of the person you offended.
 
5- How can I avoid this situation (or this person) in the future? Honestly evaluate your friendships, close relatives and co-workers. You cannot always eliminate toxic relationships, especially when it comes to work environments or certain family members, but you CAN minimize contact and set boundaries for how to interact with you. You can be assertive about the kinds of interactions you will not tolerate, such as raising of the voice, gossiping around you, being asked for money, or whatever the trigger is. 

 

Links and Resources

Podcasts: Maintaining and letting go of friendships you’ve outgrown.

Blog Post: Dealing with Toxic People (by Daree Allen)

Blog Post: We Have to Allow Our Friendships to Evolve (by Natalie Lue)

 

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Hold Your Peace

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In This Episode…

Maintain your peace and goodwill toward others during this holiday season and throughout the year by avoiding these 6 behaviors will destroy your peace.

 

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Key Points

Here are the 6 things that will destroy your peace of mind:
  1. Gossiping. Not only does it make you look bad, but it also shows other people who you are.
  2. Participating in drama. It can also mean that you are either the one causing the drama, or you are the one perpetuating it by feeding into that other person’s personality issues and insecurities.
  3. Engaging with your critics.
  4. Procrastinating.
  5. People pleasing.  People use people pleasers to manipulate them into getting what they want.
  6. Holding on to relationships you’ve outgrown or that are toxic. You cannot be afraid to let go of people that are not serving you. It doesn’t mean that you’re casting someone aside, unless they are being abusive or negative in some way, or disregarding your boundaries. And you have to be secure in your decision and ready for whatever reaction they make it because  their reaction is not your problem or your fault.
Change is not easy. Some may prefer to stay in dysfunction because it’s familiar, but is it worth your peace and happiness? Ask yourself that question the next time you are confronted with one of these scenarios. Also ask yourself: Is this situation worth me losing my mind? My dignity? God’s grace over my purpose?

 

What You Can Do

Leave the crazy alone. It is absolutely pointless to go back and forth with over-critical people and those who are “always right”. Firmly assert yourself, letting them know that the topic involving you is not up for debate. If you do not engage, the argument cannot continue. Establishing boundaries consistently is the best way to let gossipers, toxic people and others know that you are not the one to get caught up in their drama or negativity.

The key to overcoming procrastination is to implement organizational systems that will eventually become a routine. Manage paper such as magazines and bills online when possible. Toss or donate trinkets and gifts you don’t want, need or use at least once a year. Store and display momentos in decorative boxes, photo albums, and furniture.

There are various levels of friendship and they can ebb and flow even if you don’t choose to eliminate them. I’ve written extensively about toxic relationships on my blog.

 

Links and Resources

Check out these podcasts about maintaining and letting go of friendships you’ve outgrown.

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Four Seasons of Loneliness with J. Walter Freiberg III

In This Episode…

  • What “feeling lonely” really tells you
  • Why loneliness is a serious public health problem
  • How to make and restore connections to old and new friends

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Key Points

Loneliness is a sensation like hunger or thirst. It’s a sensation of inadequate connection.

As of 2012, more than 1/4 of U.S. households are one-person households.

Chronic loneliness also makes you sicker (diabetes, high blood pressure, Alheizmer’s disease) and higher mortality. The cure requires no medicine and doesn’t cost money.

 

What You Can Do

 

To combat loneliness, maintain closer connections, and start reaching out to friends and loved ones (calling those who you haven’t seen or spending time with them) more regularly.

Take the initiative to reproduce communal contacts. Join groups at a community organization based on a hobby or cause (like at a church, the Y or a Meetup) on purpose. It’s not hard to find new contacts, but it takes diligence to seek them out and nurture them.

Connect with My Guest

J. Walter Freiberg, JD, Professor, Author

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Get (and Keep) Your Happy!

In This Episode

Society tells you: ‘Buy this!’ or ‘Do that!’ Then you’ll be happy. You need a bigger house, a new car. A new man. Newer, bigger, better. And our appetite is never satisfied, as we are conditioned to want More. More. More.

But more isn’t always better. Getting back to YOU and what makes you happy so you can live a life of fulfillment and satisfaction means that you have to eliminate things and people in your life who are unnecessary and serve no good purpose.

In this episode of Kickin’ it with Daree, I want to share my take on an article that lists 15 things that happy people avoid at all costs. The author says something I completely agree with: It’s not what happy people do that makes them so different, but what they choose not to do that allows happiness to circulate into their life.

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Key Points & What You Can Do

 

1. Toxic People

You’ve probably heard of The Rule of 5, which says that the five people you spend the most time around have the biggest impact on who you are as a person. Spending time around negative people who shoot down your dreams takes a lot of energy and wears out your level of happiness.

It takes courage to distance yourself from these people, but devoting your precious time to people who make you miserable isn’t worth missing out on happiness. I’ve got an entire series on how to identify, deal with, and eliminate toxic people, which is linked in the show notes for this episode.

2. Rushing/Being late

I try to head this off by leaving with enough time to allow for traffic incidents, setting out my clothes or other materials that I will need to grab with me in the morning before I leave,etc. but if I’m late leaving the house, whether it’s my fault, or because I’m waiting for someone else in the house to get ready, it starts my day off wrong. When I arrive somewhere late, it robs me of my peace because I am stressed and irritable about it.

 

3. Unhealthy Addictions

When we say addictions, you may think of smoking, drinking or drugs, but other addictive habits can affect your happiness too.
You could be addicted to a PERSON, a TV show, social media, ice cream, soda or coffee. None of these is inherently wrong, but done in excess is not healthy and may signal a deeper emotional issue.

Can you go 2 days without caffeine, watching TV or using social media? Try it on the weekend or when you don’t have to work. It might be harder than it sounds!
Consider taking a “fasts” from certain habits in your life. So you can how much free time you have without TV or how you don’t actually need coffee or whatever your crutch is to start your day.

4. Media Overload

Social media, internet and email fall into this category. I suggest setting an audible time limit on this, with an exact next step afterward. For example, decide in advance what you will do after spending 30 minutes on Facebook– spending time with your family, making an important phone call, or going to sleep! Using your device in bed does not help your quality of sleep.

5. Suppressing Emotions

The biggest misconception about happy people is that they are happy ALL the time and never experience any emotion other than pure joy.

The truth about happy people is they experience all emotions just like every other human, the difference is they let their emotions show and trust that, by expressing that feeling, it will pass.

Emotions come from our natural instincts, so when you try to hide an emotion like sadness, it doesn’t go away. Sadness fights back and comes out even stronger. Expressing yourself releases the emotion and allows happiness levels to come back into focus.

6. Four-Wall Syndrome

Staying inside all day every day, traps you from the freedom of the outside world. It’s no coincidence that a majority of happy people love to explore outdoors, whether it’s hiking, road trips or as simple as family barbecues.

I’m not a big nature or outdoors person, but I find that when I step out into the sunshine for a walk or go for a run, it releases negative emotions and even if I’m upset when I leave the house, I return feeling better.

The longer you keep yourself cooped inside all day the harder it is to get the motivation to step outside. Surrounding yourself by walls in the physical world builds up emotional walls by changing the way you interact with people. So at least every other day, go out and get some fresh air!

7. Self-Entitlement


This is a horrible epidemic going on among people these days–especially young people. A sense of hard work and doing unto others as you would have done to you, seems to be a lost teaching as kids get away from the wisdom of our elders.
Letting go of self-entitlement gives you the ability to appreciate all the amazing things we already have in your life.

No one owes us anything. We are blessed to be alive. So many people will never get to experience this day that you are in.
Make a gratitude journal or get in the habit of giving thanks every day! It will put things in perspective.

8. Too Many Expectations

When people always set their expectation through the roof it becomes too easy for them to be disappointed.

You can’t expect everyone to want to do things exactly the same way as you, some people just view the world differently. Just the same, you can’t always expect for things to go your way. And you can’t expect someone else to make you happy. You are responsible for your own happiness.

Letting go of expectations doesn’t mean expecting things to be terrible, it means allowing things to be what they are and become what they need to be.

 

9. Staying At A Job You Hate

It’s hard to be happy when you spend 40+ hours a week at a job you can’t stand. It’s even harder to be happy when you can’t afford to leave.
If you hate your job, you can start taking action towards changing jobs or careers, by putting saving money for change and creating an exit plan.
It’s okay to hate your job right now, it’s not okay to hate your job 5 years from now and still be at the same place, blaming everyone else for it.

10. Over-Complaining

Sometimes complaining is totally acceptable and healthy. It can be good to let out all of that stress and get some air out of your chest.
But, indulging in complaint driven attitudes is contagious and spending too much time around that toxicity can negatively affect your outlooks on life. It has nothing to do with moving forward and making changes that will improve your situation.

11. Excessive Clutter

Too much clutter bogs down your life making it difficult to have peace of mind. The physical clutter around you has an emotional effect as well.

If you ever think of moving and have to decide against it because you have too much stuff, you’re a victim of clutter.

Material possessions should only be purchased if they enhance our life, not hold us back. It shouldn’t be something that stops us from doing something we want to do. If you are buying things because you are emotional, or bored, or just because you have a card with available credit, you need to re-evaluate your priorities. Clutter and debt never make anyone smile, they are both extremely hard to dig out of–I know this from experience.

Take action by throwing out the junk you don’t need so you can really appreciate the things that make your life better. Then set a rule that you will not bring anything else in your home unless you toss or give something away.

12. Putting Others Down

The main reason we put other people down is to feel better about ourselves. In other words, we don’t like who we are as an individual, so we need to put someone else down so we don’t look bad.
Putting someone else down provides a short term boost, that’s why we do it. But in the long term, you’re still the same person as before but now a jerk on top of it. And stepping back to media for a second–reality shows and competition shows don’t help this, because they encourage us to judge others.
When you have no inclination to put someone else down, or discourage them from their dreams, that’s a good signal that you are a happy person.

13. Grudges

One of the worst habits you can have is holding on to a grudge long after the altercation is over. A grudge forces you to plant one foot in the past and never fully allows you to move forward from the situation.

When you hold a grudge it changes a part of who you are. You’re staying angry with someone who already made their mistake and there’s nothing they can do to change what they did.
Unforgiveness is like drinking poison hoping that the other person will die. Holding onto a grudge only hurts yourself, and the quicker you can forgive and let go the faster you can get back to enjoying the rest of your life.

14. Worrying About The Future

When we focus all our attention on the future we end up forgetting where we are in the moment and never make any progress.
It’s good to think about the future, to develop an instinct to act and prepare yourself to live a life you want. But you can’t control everything that’s going to happen. You can manipulate certain parts of the future, but the majority is out of your hands.

There’s no positive impact from worrying about the future. All you can do is enjoy the ride and trust that GOD will take care of you.

15. Taking Life Too Seriously

In the end we live and then we die, and if you did things right, you had a lot of fun in-between.

We make things more complicated than they need to be. We make up all these rules and start wars over misunderstood conversations between people in funny suits.

When you let go of all seriousness the pressure is off. You’re allowed to experience your life first hand and create it to become the amazing life you dreamed of–even with the craziness here and there that may ensue.

 

Making Room For Happiness In Your Life Once And For All

By avoiding negative environments, bad habits, and poor lifestyles, happy people create space in their lives that makes room for happiness.

Again, I want to reiterate that the responsibility for your happiness lies with you and your choices–no one else. It’s a mistake to depend on a friend, significant other, or anyone else for your happiness. C.S. Lewis said, “Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose.”

So now that we have concluded the list of 15 things happy people avoid, do any of them resonate with you? If you have been enlightened on some things may be getting in the way of getting your happiness, and how to eliminate them for good, please share them with me.

 

 

Links and Resources

This podcast was inspired and remixed from George Mortimer blog at http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/15-things-happy-people-avoid-costs/

 

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