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Building Up Boys and Men of Color with Brandon Frame

In This Episode…

  • Supporting Black boys in our community
  • How women can help build men up

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Key Points

The Black Man Can, Inc. is an oasis of resources for both African American and global communities. In just 7 years the organization has gained an international following and endeavors to change and promote a positive narrative of black lives. Comprised of a network of over 200 MENtors to uplift, educate, and inspire young men of color, they have impacted 3,500 young men and counting.

Mental health is important. If you want to support your man, know that it’s ok to pray and see a therapist at the same time.

 

What You Can Do

(Photo: Jared Ryder / BET)

Encourage the man in your life. Let him know that he doesn’t have to be perfect; he just has to commit to getting better, and become consistent.

Encourage the good, no matter how small. Two big things that drive men are ego and pride. Think of how you can best address a man that allows his ego and pride to operate from a place of love, and not from selfishness.
Be sure that you are not neglecting roles in your family structure.  For example, if you’re a good mother and attentive to your children, don’t forget to be a good wife, and be attentive to your husband, too. You don’t want to neglect your partner for the sake of your children or vice versa.
Communication works when you are able to vulnerable and comfortable enough to let your partner know what you need from them.

 

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Brandon Frame, Founder and CVO at The Black Man Can Institute, Social Innovator
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Define Yourself, Redefine the World: A Guided Journal for Boys and Men of Color by Brandon Frame

He-Motions by T.D. Jakes

 

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Learning How to Say No with Mark and Laura Tong

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Mark and Laura Tong return to the podcast to discuss their new book, The Life-Changing Power of No!, where they discuss healthy and respectful ways to assert your boundaries in various situations:

  • What makes it so hard to say No to people when they ask you for help? (4:55)
  • Examples of ways you can say no without being disrespectful or feeling guilty (7:57)
  • What you gain by saying No (15:22)

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Key Points

Saying no to things that don't serve you gives you self-respect and confidence. Saying yes all the time results in losing yourself, little by little.

No one ever did anything good in this world without having to say no to something. If you're going to accomplish something or do something good in your life, you're going to have to say no to something as well. A no always goes with a yes.

By saying no to things that are not going to serve you, you could say yes to opportunities and yes to having more time, yes to building and maintaining good friendships and relationships and gain peace of mind.  You lose the angst, overwhelm, frustration and regret that you've been dealing with.

 

 

What You Can Do

You can say no to someone kindly, without being disrespectful. You may say no and thus reject the request, but it doesn't mean you're rejecting that person.

First get their attention by thanking them and giving them a compliment. Keep it short and sweet, because if you do too much explaining that you would have talked yourself into doing that thing that you just said no to!
 

 

 

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Laura and Mark Tong
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Links and Resources


21 Ways to Stop Regretting the Life You Didn't Have and Live The Life You Want Now – (The Tongs' previous appearance)

5 Ways To Say No Without Offending Anyone (Even If You Hate Conflict) – free download from Laura Tong

Stop Helping everyone! (A "Read-to-Me Ree" article)

"No" is a complete sentence

 

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When It’s Not Just a Headache with Lisa Jacobson

 


In This Episode…

 

  • What a migraine is and its stigma – 2:56
  • What causes a migraine – 5:15
  • Lisa's story – 7:30
  • How to manage your migraines – 9:28
  • The importance of a support group – 14:23
  • Tracking your migraines – 15:54
  • The making of the Migraine Hat – 19:19

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Key Points

 

Migraine is a neurological disease. There is a stigma that migraine is just a headache. But it's much worse… it's very debilitating.

Some of the things that trigger migraines are light, sounds, smells, certain foods, genetics, TMJ and stress. These triggers can cause an electrical storm in the brain, and can cause one to be dizzy, experience paralysis, and makes it impossible to carry on every day activities such as work and caregiving.

National Institute of Health (NIH) has very low funding for research. Only 500 doctors in the U.S. Are credentialed to treat migraine.

There is no cure, but there are ways to manage migraine disease.

Lisa created The Daily Migraine website to give migraine sufferers a voice. It's her passion project; she receives no revenue from it, but hopes to create awareness and help find a cure for migraines. All the proceeds from her invention, the Migraine Hat, go to research.
 

 

What You Can Do

 

  1. Find a really good doctor. Use the Physician Finder (mostly neurologists) on TheDailyMigraine.com.
  2. Plan for an attack. Have medicine, ice ready and practice self-care. You can keep a small freezer with ice in your bedroom, have sunglasses with you at all times, and if you grind your teeth at night (TMJ), wear a mouth guard at night.
  3. Make an "MEK" Migraine Emergency Kit: Some examples of things to put in it are meds, fan, peppermint essential oil, food, ginger candy, water, sunglasses, bandana.
  4. Avoid stress and negativity whenever possible.
  5. Join a support group, like The Daily Migraine Facebook group.
  6. Track the migraine occurrences to show your doctor.

 

 

Connect with My Guest

Lisa Jacobson, Speaker, Advocate, Inventor
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Links and Resources

The Migraine Hat at Lisa's website or Amazon
The Daily Migraine Facebook Support Group
The "Migraine Buddy" app
Eliminating Toxic Relationships podcasts – General and romantic relationships 

 

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The Best Kind of Stress Reliever with Teliah Gienger

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Key Points

 

Stress is a part of life, and trying to get rid of all stress can stress you out even more! A better way is learning to manage stress instead of running away from it.

Stress is not always bad. It can alert you to things that are not good in your life, and motivate you to make changes.

In any venture or area of life, our success begins with a healthy mindset. – Teliah Gienger

Our bodies will naturally let us know when something is wrong, but its not always something drastic that happens, like a siren going off to get our attention. The signs it gives slowly build up until we can’t ignore them.

What You Can Do

Reframe challenges as an opportunity to grow.

Being in touch with your body allows you to become more aware of how things affect you.

 

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Teliah Gienger, Entrepreneur, Coach and Podcast Host
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Links and Resources

Forthcoming:

3-day Yoga Retreat scheduled for August 2017
40 Days to Healthy Habits by Teliah Gienger (an ebook focusing on nutrition, physical health, mental health through meditation, journaling, emotional and spiritual health, and lifestyle changes)


 

 

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Getting Out of the Panic Room with Gina Ryan

 

In This Episode…

 

  • Why you MUST label your issue

  • How mindful breathing and meditation help patch the places where you are leaking energy

  • Why a high fat low carb diet can be helpful tool in calming our body and reducing panic attacks

  • How to find activities to release stress

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Key Points

 

Many suffer from stress, anxiety and panic based on things that aren’t real.

FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real

Stress is cumulative. It’s often the straw that breaks the camel’s back—not a big event.

By stringing one good day after another like pearls, knowing that if I had one good day I could continue, and eventually, because I had such faith that I was not broken, and that I could recondition my nervous system,
I could get to a point where I really felt like I was on top of life again… and that’s what I did.” – Gina Ryan on curing her own chronic anxiety and panic attacks

What You Can Do

 

You must find the language to admit and utter out loud what problem you are having, because you cannot conquer what you can't confront.

Gina said that what helped her was when she practiced breathing and meditation, and gave up foods that worked against her. You can recondition your brain with proper breathing and meditation techniques. It helps patch the places where you are leaking energy.

Eating fat nourishes your brain and calms your nervous system. Refrain from caffeine and added sugars, especially in drinks. Ingesting caffeine adds extra stress to your body.

Experiment with recipes by changing one ingredient that will improve your nutrition (for example, Daree substituted almond flour instead of regular flour to coating meat before baking, and using erythritol instead of table sugar when making sweet treats). Find something that works for YOU.

Move your body. Whether you dance, play tennis, do Zumba, or go for a walk, moving can help you work out your stress and release toxins in your muscles. Find something that makes you feel good when you're doing it, and that you'll look forward to. You can even find free workouts on YouTube.

Keep a journal like a gratitude journal. This turns on a different part of our brain and releases stress in your mind.

 

 

Connect with My Guest

 

Gina Ryan, Nutritionist, Holistic Life & Anxiety Coach, Podcast Host

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Links and Resources

 

Free 10-Minute Body Scan – http://theanxietycoachespodcast.com/body-scan
Meditation for the Anxious at Heart meditation course – available at the end of April 2017 through the website).

 

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