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HPV and You: Not Just a Woman’s Health Issue with Robin LaCross

In This Episode…

  • 1:16 Why it's hard for women to talk about our vaginal and reproductive health
  • 4:26 How preventing child abuse starts in the home
  • 7:58 What HPV is and why both males and females should care about it
  • 12:40 Why HPV testing for males is not promoted, and how males can test at home
  • 18:26 Background on the Gardasil vaccine and why its marketed to parents of teens
  • 21:51 How factors of treating dysplasia can put future fertility at risk
  • 24:32 Natural solutions to help your body heal itself
  • 28:25 The HPV Education Project

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Key Points

It's important to get comfortable with using the actual words for your anatomy. Each body part has a name, and there should be no shame associated with any of them. 
 
HPV is a sexually-transmitted virus that is extremely common. Sometimes it goes away on its own, but you don't know without taking a test, because HPV does not always produce symptoms that you can see. Untreated HPV can cause cancers that affects both sexes (oral, throat, penile, anal and cervical cancer).
 
Cervical dysplasia is in a way a reflection of what's going on in your body as a whole.
 
Females should specifically ask to be screened for HPV whenever they have a pap smear, to check for cervical cancer.
 

What You Can Do  

You want your child to have your values first, so that a potential abuser cannot infiltrate their thinking with messages that perpetuate secrecy. Help give children the right words for their genitals, the vocabulary to express themselves, and teach them what it means to have boundaries and proper touching. 
 
Taking care of your body (getting enough sleep, reducing stress, and eating well) will help you defeat or ward off HPV.  Not taking care of yourself, especially heightened stress, sex with a smoker or taking hormonal birth control can cause problems.
 
Test kits to screen oral, throat, penile, anal cancers are not done in the mainstream at doctor offices, but are available through Robin's website below.
 

Connect with My Guest

Robin LaCross, Holistic Health Practitioner
Website – Free Gift: 3 Strategies to Protect Yourself from HPV
 

Facebook Pages:

https://www.facebook.com/The-HPV-Education-Project

https://www.facebook.com/cervicalhealth/

 

Twitter:

https://twitter.com/FertilityDeva

https://twitter.com/HPVeduProject  

Links and Resources

www.cervixhealth.com – Free Webinar: Natural Ways To Overcome HPV And Create Cervical Health… Even If You've Just Received An Abnormal Pap Smear Result

 

www.fertilitydeva.com – Free webinar: Natural Ways to Avoid Pregnancy without Giving Up Sex or Relying on Birth Control.

 

www.raisingempowereddaughters.com – Free Gift: Mom's Quick Start Guide: Conversations About Growing Up, Sex and Staying Safe

 

Facebook Group for Moms Raising Empowered Daughters:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/raisingempowereddaughters/

 

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Building Up Boys and Men of Color with Brandon Frame

In This Episode…

  • Supporting Black boys in our community
  • How women can help build men up

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Key Points

The Black Man Can, Inc. is an oasis of resources for both African American and global communities. In just 7 years the organization has gained an international following and endeavors to change and promote a positive narrative of black lives. Comprised of a network of over 200 MENtors to uplift, educate, and inspire young men of color, they have impacted 3,500 young men and counting.

Mental health is important. If you want to support your man, know that it’s ok to pray and see a therapist at the same time.

 

What You Can Do

Encourage the man in your life. Let him know that he doesn’t have to be perfect; he just has to commit to getting better, and become consistent.
Encourage the good, no matter how small. Two big things that drive men are ego and pride. Think of how you can best address a man that allows his ego and pride to operate from a place of love, and not from selfishness. 
Be sure that you are not neglecting roles in your family structure.  For example, if you’re a good mother and attentive to your children, don’t forget to be a good wife, and be attentive to your husband, too. You don’t want to neglect your partner for the sake of your children or vice versa.
Communication works when you are able to vulnerable and comfortable enough to let your partner know what you need from them.

 

Connect with My Guest

Brandon Frame, Founder and CVO at The Black Man Can Institute, Social Innovator
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Links and Resources

Help The Black Man Can Institute reach their fundraising goal: 5,000 donations of $25, which will give 5,000 boys access to their mentoring programs.   Note: 100% of the proceeds go directly into funding their programs and initiatives.    
 


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Be the Star of Your Show with Taiia Smart Young

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  • How to choose your own path or “adventure”
  • Why you should have a list of Bragging Rights (and not be shy about them)
  • The “Fave Five” mentors you need in order to succeed
  • How to be the Star of your show

 

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Key Points

You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. You can choose your own adventure even if it’s not popular or others think you can’t.  Don’t be afraid to go outside the boundaries or limits others may try to place on you.

You can go from a shy girl to a “Shine girl.” Remember how fly you are. Fly does not mean flashy.

Social media is the highlight reel—it’s not the movie.

Being “famous” and the star of your show is not about how many likes and retweets you receive on social media. It’s about knowing yourself, your talents and where you need to develop yourself.


 

 

What You Can Do

TaiiaInstead of focusing on the ways you have messed up, think about your accomplishments. “I killed it when….” and create a list of Bragging Rights.

Don’t limit your creativity or innovation. Everything does not have to be done in the traditional way. You can break the rules like Netflix (streaming media content) or Beyonce (releasing an album without formally promoting it) as long as you are strategic and purposeful.

Get used to hearing the word “No” to your requests or ideas so that it doesn’t hurt your feelings or cause you to have a “mantrum.”

You need different kinds of mentors, such as a visionary, and a social butterfly—people who may share some of your strengths, but have some that you can learn from. People who can see your gifts, your potential and your greatness—things you may not see about yourself.  Taiia calls them the “Fave Five,” but you can have more than five mentors—that’s just a start.

 

 

Connect with My Guest

Taiia (Tee-Eye-Yah)) Smart Young, Author, Writer, Speaker and Founder & Director of Content for Smart Girl Media

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Girls Gone Mild: The Fashion Continuum of Modesty to Ratchness

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In This Episode…

  • Selecting appropriate fashions by age group (13 and up)
  • Setting the rules for how to dress in public
  • Guidelines for dressing modestly (and offend the fewest number of folks)

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Key Points

PINK pantsStandards start at home. You have to teach your children to respect the rules of the institutions they attend.

The way that we live our lives shows the youth the standards that are permissible in society, regardless of what we teach them verbally.

We should teach the youth to be themselves more than conforming to what everyone else is doing. Just because everyone else is doing something makes it okay to them, but may not necessarily be the right thing to do.

Some fashion trends are debatable, but when you are out in public, you have to consider others and not just yourself.

 

What You Can Do

As women, we set the standard. When you dress, you are setting the standard for how you want to be approached and/or treated by others.  It’s okay for a woman to like getting attention from a man, but just be aware that the way you dress influences how he may perceive her.  What we as women do often determines how a man will approach us.  You can dress in a classy way that shows off your beauty, even your figure, without degrading yourself or coming off to others as “easy” to get.

God created our beauty and it does need to be hidden. Even as “woman of God,” or a woman in ministry, you can be fashionable and show off your beauty in a tasteful way.

Be mindful of the image you portray because it reflects how you feel about yourself and in turn how others will treat you.

Take note of the reasons why you wear certain outfits. Are you seeking attention? Are you insecure about yourself or your body? Check your motives.FullSizeRender

 

Connect with My Guest

Kionica “Kay” Tolbert, Life Stylist and Designer
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Links and Resources

Articles

Teen told to wear ‘appropriate dress’ starts ‘Crop Top Day’ instead

Yoga Pants and What the Bible Really Says About Modesty

Books

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The Truth About Style by Stacy London

What’s Wrong with Me? by Daree Allen

Searching for Significance in Social Media

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In This Episode…

  • How to manage social media, self-esteem, selfies and shaming
  • How to protect ourselves and prevent our children from pain in the aftermath of sexting and revenge porn

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Key Points

Sometimes selfies are not narcissistic, but just a display of random, happy moments in life.  There might be an obsession going on if you have to take a thousand version of the selfie just to post one.

Trying to keep up with the trends and appearances of popular reality shows and Instagram photos, constantly aiming for perfection, and comparing themselves to celebrities and each other, contributes to the eroding of young people’s self-esteem.  Bullying doesn’t end when they get off the school bus—they continue to deal with it online based on their appearance and their popularity (e.g., the number of likes on their social media posts).

Parenting and discipline should be done in the home—putting your discipline online, especially public shaming, is inappropriate and detrimental to your overall relationship with your child.  It stems not first from the need to discipline, but from a need for the parent to show off and get attention (e.g., possible notoriety from a viral video).  Things you post online can live there forever. So consider how your child will feel long after the rest of the world has forgotten about the video and the long-term damage it could do.  The parent that posts a video disciplining their child is the narcissist.  Discipline is to correct an temporary issue, not to have it live forever online.

Every poor choice has a consequence.

 

What You Can Do

Keep an open line of communication with your child. Regularly and randomly check their phone and their accounts.

Teach your children about the consequences of posting inappropriate photos and other material online. If you instill your values in them, you must trust that they will remember what you have taught—even if they choose not to follow your wishes (and thus experience the negative consequences).

 

 

Connect with My Guest

Shan Thomas, Creative Marketing Specialist at EntrepreNewHER
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Links and Resources

Artist Sells Other People’s Instagram Pics for $90K but You Can Make Money Off Your Selfies by Ann Brown

The Dove Campaign for Real Beauty

Facebook Therapy? Why Do People Share Self-Relevant Content Online? by Jonah A. Berger and Eva Buechel

Internet Outrage, Public Shaming and Modern-Day Pharisees by Scott Sauls

Is It Really Necessary To Discipline A Child By Publicly Humiliating Them On Social Media? By Clutch

Izabel Laxaman Suicide

Misrepresentation in Online Personas by Daree Allen

The Science Behind Your Social Media Addiction by Charlotte Hilden Andersen

Sexting scandal: 20 students charged at New Jersey high school by Rebecca Ruiz

Target tells women: love your bodies