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Start Small to Live Big with Betsy Pake

 

In This Episode…

  • The secret to motivation and accomplishing goals
  • Identifying what you want in your life
  • Making a simple plan for change with great results
  • A simple, unique way to break habits and create new ones

 

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Key Points

Starting a goal in small steps can help lower the resistance that keeps us from getting started and building momentum.
Action creates motivation.  Once you start doing something, you create the momentum to keep going.
When something is out of alignment in our lives, it makes us notice and reflect on what we might like to, or need to change.
Anything you are trying to overcome is your gift.
“We are like candles, but we don’t know what we’re supposed to light up until we’re put in the dark.” – Betsy Pake

 

What You Can Do

Take small steps. If you’re listening to a speaker that inspires you to change, write down something you will do after you leave that event, to keep you moving forward.
Don’t get caught in consuming so much content–reading and watching videos and taking courses to the point where you don’t take any action.
Betsy’s C.H.A.S.E. Framework: Create, Help, Attain, Start, and Examine, helps you identify where you want to be, and how to create the small steps to get there. Because it’s not good enough to talk about what you don’t want. Clarifying what you DO want–and specifically what that looks like–is what will start you on the path forward.
 
If you don’t know what you want, find something that brings you joy. Think about what made you happy as a kid. And in doing things that bring you joy, your purpose will start to unfold.
If you would like to create a new habit, add it into your routine so it will fit in with the way your routine normally goes.  To break a habit, wait a bit.  For example, when you feel the energy that says you need that snack at 9 p.m., but you have a goal to stop eating before then, wait a little longer than you usually do. Wait a few more minutes each time, to give that chemical reaction in your brain the chance to fade away.
Change one thing at a time, aka “stacking” habits. Start small, so you don’t overwhelm yourself with too many changes all at once.

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Betsy Pake , Entrepreneur, Author, Podcaster and Life Strategist

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The Happy Middle with Lauri Mackey

In This Episode…

Have you ever felt like you wanted to accomplish something but talked yourself out of it with thoughts of, "You're too old," or "It's too late"?  Well, it's never too late to follow your dreams. Just ask Lauri Mackey, who has accomplished a LIST of things after turning 40, including racing mountain bikes and getting her GED in a class full of Hispanic teenagers that she had nothing else in common with!

Lauri shows us how to embrace and celebrate your current station in life– where you are right now!

 

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Key Points

You can't touch yesterday; the past is a learning tool. You have now.

Don't think in terms of waiting until. It's what you do today that will make your future goal a reality.


 

 

What You Can Do

Don't sell yourself short because you're over 40. Change your attitude from “I can't” to “I will.”

 

Change your negative language from “I can't because…” to “I WILL ___________.”

What you do now will go toward your future goals?

Be intentional with your actions. Visualize the manifestation of your dream becoming your reality.

Are you waiting to get motivated? Motivation is step 2!

Step 1 – Action – It doesn't have to be big. You can take baby steps, and it's ok if you “fall off the wagon” and miss a day or two. Just back to it!

Step 2 – Motivation (this istarts from the feeling you get after having accomplished step 1)

Step 3 – Momentum (develops from repeating steps 1 and 2 over and over again)

Step 3a – Have fun!

You don't have to be perfect when you are implementing these steps. No one is perfect. Give yourself a break and allow yourself to be human.

 


 

 

Connect with My Guest

Lauri Mackey, Inspirational Speaker/Mountain Biker/RockStar Podcaster

Lauri's Lemonade Stand Positivity Podcast for Women
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Eddy's 60 Days of Sunshine emails
 

 

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The Best Kind of Stress Reliever with Teliah Gienger

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Key Points

 

Stress is a part of life, and trying to get rid of all stress can stress you out even more! A better way is learning to manage stress instead of running away from it.

Stress is not always bad. It can alert you to things that are not good in your life, and motivate you to make changes.

In any venture or area of life, our success begins with a healthy mindset. – Teliah Gienger

Our bodies will naturally let us know when something is wrong, but its not always something drastic that happens, like a siren going off to get our attention. The signs it gives slowly build up until we can’t ignore them.

What You Can Do

Reframe challenges as an opportunity to grow.

Being in touch with your body allows you to become more aware of how things affect you.

 

Connect with My Guest

Teliah Gienger, Entrepreneur, Coach and Podcast Host
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Forthcoming:

3-day Yoga Retreat scheduled for August 2017
40 Days to Healthy Habits by Teliah Gienger (an ebook focusing on nutrition, physical health, mental health through meditation, journaling, emotional and spiritual health, and lifestyle changes)


 

 

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Cultivating Lasting Love Through the Hard Times with Britany Felix


In This Episode…

 

  • When your friend has feelings for the one you're in love with

  • Dealing with a long-distance relationship

  • Communicating with your partner during financial hardships

  • Getting along with each other despite opposite personality types

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Key Point

 

A sacrifice is when you are giving something up for nothing in return. A compromise gives you and the other person something without completely sacrificing for the other person.
 

What You Can Do

 

Together you and your partner have to find ways to compromise that allow you both to feel fulfilled and content in your relationship.

When you are in a long-distance relationship or separated from your spouse for a long period, the most important things you can do is have mutual trust, and commit to connect with each other daily (via phone, Facetime, Skype, etc.), even if you're tired or in different time zones. Make sure you're present in each other's lives even though you can't physically be there.

If you are considering a job or career change, or anything that will affect your family's income or lifestyle, talk to your spouse before you make a final decision. Communicate with each other don't be selfish—consider their needs too.

 

 

Connect with My Guest

Britany Felix, Host of the Living Unconventionally podcast (pictured at right with her husband, Bryan)
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Living Unconventionally Community
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Purse-nality Disorder – how to deal with your spending/saving habits

 

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Make Your Pennies Squeak! with Michelle Jackson

 


In This Episode…

Michelle Jackson discusses frugality and cutting costs without lowering your quality of life.

 

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Key Points

You should never pay full price for anything.
Debt drags you down when the unexpected happens. But once you pay it off, you've given yourself a raise.

 

What You Can Do

 

 

  1. Do your research. You can find ways to save, then pick the ones that are easiest and most relevant for your livestyle. (Sites and apps mentioned in this show are listed below in Resources.)
  2. You can live a great quality of life leaving within your means, but first you have to decide that's what you really want to do. Next, examine your finances to see where there's room to change your system.
  3. Manage your income. Are there new skills you can learn to boost it? Can you parlay it into a digital-based side hustle? What are you naturally good at that can be marketed for pay?
  4. Pay off debt as quickly as possible.

 

Connect with My Guest

Michelle Jackson, Owner and Creative Content Curator, The Shop My Closet Project

 

Website

Instagram

Twitter

Email

Girl Gone Frugal Again Podcast

Colorado Luv Hub – Blog about all things Colorado (related podcast Square State)

The D.O.N.E. Society – Online community for future digital entrepreneurs

 

Links and Resources

These are the money-saving sites and apps mentioned in this episode, but there are many more!

Honey (browser extension)
Ebates
Ibotta
Poshmark (secondhand clothing, consignment)
ThredUp.com (secondhand clothing, consignment)

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Speak Up and Remain Fabulous! with Jennifer S. Wilkov

 

In This Episode…

 

  • How to be brave when you're afraid

  • Tips for speaking up

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Key Point

 

"It doesn't matter what happened to you… you're the same fabulous person you were beforehand. Life is not about what happens to you; it's about what you choose to do with it once it does. You have the right to remain fabulous!" – Jennifer S. Wilkov

 

What You Can Do

 

Do you see something wrong in your community? Speak up! It takes courage and strength to speak up, but it's the right thing to do. It's worth it. Spare others' pain by telling them what you've been through.

Tips for Speaking Up:

  1. Ask yourself: What's holding me back?

  2. Who are the people I need to speak to? (People that you need to confront or have questions for.) Decide which 2 or 3 people you want to focus on, and what specifically you need to talk to them about. What do you need help with? What do you want to say? You want to prepare for this, so you can be clear and direct in your communication.

  3. Reach out each person in question:

  • For a friendly/business topic, invite that person out for coffee and be direct and respect their time. If you say it will take 30 minutes, be on time, and don't ask 20 questions in those 30 minutes. Prioritize you want to ask.

  • For a personal situation, don't downplay your concerns or sugarcoat your feelings. Get to the point and do not worry about how they will receive it– you have to get something off your chest whether they like it or not. Their response is not your problem.

  1. Speak up for yourself. Be honest of what you feel passionate speaking up about, then do so with one person at a time.


 

Take these steps one at a time. If you start to feel fear, it's ok. Feel the fear and do it anyway! Give yourself the opportunity to experience the journey and experience what it's like on the other side of that fear.

 

Connect with My Guest

Jennifer S. Wilkov, Best-selling author, radio host and TEDx speaker
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Who Will You Be? with Olivia Charlet

 


In This Episode…

Who would you be if you had no doubts holding you back? Discover how to challenge your negative thoughts and build each day for success in this podcast episode with Coach Olivia Charlet. Learn how to tap into the version of you with insane levels of conviction who can do ANYTHING.

 

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Key Points

 

Our beliefs impact our thoughts, which lead to our words and then our actions.

The words we speak are powerful. Your words reinforce your beliefs, whether you speak words of encouragement or words of discouragement.

It's hard to be what you can't see.

How would you be different if you had ___________ that you've been wanting? Would you be more confident? Excited? Relaxed? Freer? What would you believe about life? About yourself?

 

 

What You Can Do

Look at the people around you and think about where they will be five years from now. If that's not what you want for yourself, you need to shift your friends, mentors and associates and find new people that will bring success, who have similar goals and values into your life.

Challenge your thoughts! It doesn't matter what people say you're not good at. Sometimes it helps to look for the root of your limiting beliefs and negative thoughts about yourself. Who used to say that to you? Why? What evidence do you have that it's true, or that it's NOT true? Where's the proof? And then challenge that belief as an opinion and not a fact.

You don't have to meditate on every thought that comes into your head. You can reject your thoughts instead of wallowing in them. Don't settle for the idea of "this is just the way it is."

Train your mind to think positive thoughts on a regular basis. Practice saying the opposite of what you usually say when you are frustrated or tempted to complain.

Let people help you with bad habits that you don't notice. Give them permission to "check" you when you berate yourself out loud, e.g. "Oh I'm so stupid."

It can be hard to keep track of your thoughts because we think so much more, and so much faster than we talk. Journaling is a way to record your thoughts and feelings so you can explore and change your limiting beliefs. Writing down your thoughts helps you process them.

Try this for 30 days. Ask yourself:
1.    What do I want?
2.    Who would I be if I have what I want? (Get specific with details and how it feels to have what you want.)
3.    What would I believe about love, relationships, the world, myself?
4.    If I chose to believe this is true [that you have what you wanted], what action would I take to accelerate those results?


 

 

Connect with My Guest

Olivia Charlet, Coach, Speaker, Author

Website – Olivia Charlet International

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Resources 

Olivia's Master Class (see website link above)

 


 

 

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Training for Love Greatness with Daniel Packard

 

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In This Episode…

  • How to dismantle the lie of not being _________ enough to be loved
  • How to reframe rejection
  • How you can use principles of self-love to enhance all areas of life (not just romance)

 

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Key Points

Your future mate is out there if you believe that you're a 10 [on a scale of 10].  If you learned something different about yourself, you can unlearn it.


"Part of not loving yourself for your imperfections is like telling God, 'You messed up [when you made me]!' "
– Daniel Packard


We subsciously tell ourselves that we are not enough over and over again.  But from a science perspective, you do not have to change an external thing like your weight, your skin, etc. to make yourself more lovable.  If you want attention, then you may need to drop weight or get plastic surgery.  But are you looking for attention or are you looking for love?


If you have fear of rejection or being hurt, be aware that what causes the hurt is the meaning we ascribe to it. Especially if the meaning you deduce from someone's action is that you are not enough to be loved. It's a lie.


All females are not feminine. Women have the gift of being feminine, and this trait it part of what attract a high-value, quality, masculine partner.  Femininity is the soil that allows the flower to blossom.


Low self-esteem can begin in youth, but there are many things we stop believing as we mature, like Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy.  But being "not enough" sticks around because we regularly reinforce this message to ourselves.

 


 

 

What You Can Do

When you learn how to train like a love athlete, you feel good about yourself, comfortable in your own skin, and love is deeper.


When you continue to work on yourself, things get better for you. You're no longer depressed, jaded and exhausted. You're hopeful.


The beauty of the process of self-love is that you just work on one thing. Work on one thing at a time. This prevents overwhelm.


When you build your inner core of self-love and you get right, the noise of the world drops and you don't hear it anymore.


The only thing that keeps you from love is FEAR. But you have to own it to get over it.  Admit it if you're afraid.  If you blame something or someone else, then you're a victim and that distracts you from the real issue. Don't fall for the tactics.


When you have courage, you can feel fear, but still act in love despite the fear.


As you train for love greatness, the "not enoughness" you started with gradually shrivels up and disintegrates as you becaome a naturally authentic beautiful flower.


When you love who you are, you're a better leader, you're better in all kinds of relationships, you're better at work… it makes life better!  The best leaders are vulnerable and compassionate.


"I don't want anybody begging for love–it's your birthright!  I want you to feel it so you can claim it and stop begging for it."

– Daniel Packard


 

 

Connect with My Guest

Daniel Packard, Trainer of Love Athletes
Website (same as http://www.danielpackard.com)
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Facebook

Links and Resources

Next-Level Love Webinar (9-week interactive online course starts on December 9, 2016)

Enough Is Enough by Daniel Packard

Daree's "10 Ways to Know You Love Yourself" worksheet

 

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Like Mother, Love Daughter: How Your Child Mirrors Your Parenting Style with Shelli Chosak

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Key Points

 

 

We use our upbringing as a big part of our role model (or anti-role model) for how to parent. Factors that go into the parenting style that we use by default include our early life experiences, our own observations of our parents that we do and don't like, imitating others' parents, our teachers and spiritual leaders that we admire.

Introversion is not the same thing as shyness. Introverts get their energy from inward sources and get exhausted from being around others for long periods and need peace and quiet to recharge, whereas shyness is related to lack of skills/confidence when in social situations. Extroverts get their energy from being around others. Ambiverts are equally intro- and extroverted.

Some children will grow to be more intro- or extroverted based on the other personality types in their household. Second- and third-born children may be different to distinguish themselves from their older siblings, and not necessarily based on their inborn temperament.

When we become parents, we understand the great responsibility that we have, and along with that often comes a subconscious sense of a need for control of our surroundings. But the real sense of control is SELF-CONTROL– a control of what's going on inside of you, not so much control of others or circumstances.

"Your child's feelings are real and true for them–it doesn't matter if you agree with them or not. The more you listen to them and acknowledge that their feelings are valid, the better your relationship will be… and you're also building a successful adult." – Dr. Shelli Chosak

 

 

What You Can Do

 

It's easy for people to notice and focus on what others (in this case their children) are doing and overlook their own behavior. But looking at yourself and how your actions may have contributed to a situation gives you the opportunity to become the kind of parent you want to be.

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is a book by Daniel Goleman. In it, he encourages paying attention to what you're feeling before you make a "knee-jerk" reaction.

One way to use EQ: when your child tells you she has been mistreated by someone, instead of reacting to the situation, practice thinking through a feeling before acting on it, and then you can teach your kids to do the same.

When you ask your child how they feel, and they're being honest with you, think about it yourself and see what truth is there.

We must also not get caught up in wanting our child to be just like us in order to fulfill our need for validation. Treating her as an individual will promote a strong relationship where the child feels valued, respected and heard.


 

 

Connect with My Guest

Shelli Chosak, Psychotherapist and Author
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Celebrate Passion and Elevate Your Mindset in Relationships with Midori Verity

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In This Episode…

  • How a "Goal Date" can help re-spark passion in your relationship
  • Communication tips for real life
  • How to adjust your mindset

 

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Key Points

Sometimes it takes you stopping to see what YOU can do differently to make yourself happier in your relationship.  You have to learn what you like, what you're good at, and what excites you.

You have control over the way you think!

 

 

What You Can Do

Listen to life coaches (in classes or online), read books, attend seminars and other activities where you invest in yourself. This will help shift your mindset, and then you can discover your WHY.  And it's not a selfish thing–everyone in your circle will notice the change and be happier too.

Acknowledge those old, pervasive, limiting beliefs (especially those that are lies but still haunts you). Then flip them on their heads with "I am __________" statements.

Closing thought: Wake up with an attitude of gratitude. Think of a few things you're grateful for every day when you wake up.


 

 

Connect with My Guest

Midori Verity, Relationship Coach

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