Choosing Your Words Well, in Gratitude with May McCarthy


In This Episode…

  • How to recognize and tap into our natural intuition

  • How to incorporate gratitude into your lifestyle to help get the results you seek

  • Learn May’s 7 steps to goal-getting success


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Key Points

May’s definition of wealth is being “whole and complete, lacking nothing.” And that goes for every area of your life, not just finances.

Intuition is spiritual– you can’t see it. Relying on intuition is a success tool.

Often when a thought comes into our mind, we analyze it and try to figure out what the outcome will be. It leads to analysis paralysis.

The source of your intuition has the job of creating the path for you to achieve your goals and giving you one intuitive lead at a time, which aids you when making decisions.  It is your responsibility to take a step when you receive a message/”hit”/lead, or ask for another lead.

You can create the life you want. Get clear on what you want and focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want, you will see your goals manifest in your life.


What You Can Do

Choose your words well. Don’t talk about what you DON’T want. Describe your goal as if it has already been completed and you have already achieved it. “I am so grateful for my fit, toned, pain-free body that allows me to enjoy activities with my family.”  How do you feel, and what are you experiencing?  Describe what your life is like after having achieved the goal.

Make a daily ritual to prime your brain for success. May calls these the 7 Steps.
Set up an area in your home where you can meet with your guiding intuition each morning for 25 to 30 minutes. This is a goal attainment meeting (steps 1 through 3):

  1. Read something inspirational for 5 minutes. This puts you in a receptive mood.
  2. In the next 10 minutes, write out a gratitude letter to your “Chief Spiritual Officer” whether that is God, your intuition, the universe, etc. Include first the things you are thankful for, and second the things you want–making sure to write your wants as if you already have them, with gratitude (as mentioned above). Prioritize the goals you will write about so as not to exceed 10 minutes for this step.
  3. Read your letter from step 2 out loud. This enables your subconscious and activates your goals in your brain. The affirmations gets into your spirit.
  4. Spend 5 minutes visualizing yourself achieving your goals. Close your eyes and see yourself in that completed goal.
  5. After this meeting, go on about your day, and expect and watch for leads and what kinds of thoughts you have throughout the day. If you get ideas in your head about something or somewhere, pay attention and act on them if your intuition guides to do so.
  6. If you take the step, celebrate it. Write down demonstrations of the partnership between you and intuition–record the leads you received and the steps you took.
  7. At night, write down anything that happened that day that you are thankful for. Say them out loud. Then recite a giving forth prayer, which is a statement about anything negative like anger, resentment etc. that is taking up space instead of what you want in your life.

The key to this prosperity practice is repetition. Repetition reaps rewards, so keep your daily goal attainment meeting to no more than 30 minutes so that you can do it every day.


Connect with My Guest

May McCarthy, CEO of Bizzultz, Serial Entrepreneur, Angel Investor, Author and Philanthropist

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Be the Star of Your Show with Taiia Smart Young

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  • How to choose your own path or “adventure”
  • Why you should have a list of Bragging Rights (and not be shy about them)
  • The “Fave Five” mentors you need in order to succeed
  • How to be the Star of your show


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Key Points

You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. You can choose your own adventure even if it’s not popular or others think you can’t.  Don’t be afraid to go outside the boundaries or limits others may try to place on you.

You can go from a shy girl to a “Shine girl.” Remember how fly you are. Fly does not mean flashy.

Social media is the highlight reel—it’s not the movie.

Being “famous” and the star of your show is not about how many likes and retweets you receive on social media. It’s about knowing yourself, your talents and where you need to develop yourself.



What You Can Do

TaiiaInstead of focusing on the ways you have messed up, think about your accomplishments. “I killed it when….” and create a list of Bragging Rights.

Don’t limit your creativity or innovation. Everything does not have to be done in the traditional way. You can break the rules like Netflix (streaming media content) or Beyonce (releasing an album without formally promoting it) as long as you are strategic and purposeful.

Get used to hearing the word “No” to your requests or ideas so that it doesn’t hurt your feelings or cause you to have a “mantrum.”

You need different kinds of mentors, such as a visionary, and a social butterfly—people who may share some of your strengths, but have some that you can learn from. People who can see your gifts, your potential and your greatness—things you may not see about yourself.  Taiia calls them the “Fave Five,” but you can have more than five mentors—that’s just a start.



Connect with My Guest

Taiia (Tee-Eye-Yah)) Smart Young, Author, Writer, Speaker and Founder & Director of Content for Smart Girl Media


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Book trailer for Famous: Be the Star of Your Show
Book excerpt

Regarding the discussion on choosing your own adventure, Daree and Taiia referred to the ballerina Misty Copeland, who was featured on the cover of Essence magazine for the September 2015 issue.


No More Crumbs! with Samantha Gregory

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In This Episode…

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Key Points

We don’t just start accepting crumbs overnight. It’s a result of a long-term conditioning process where you begin to accept them from family, friends, co-workers, and bosses before it happens in romantic relationships.

“It’s so easy to blame the guy, but as I thought about my relationships, I had to start taking responsibility for the part I played in it. I had to release all the hurt and get to the point where I said, ‘I deserve better.’ ” – Samantha Gregory

Before you can have standards, boundaries or policies, you have to know who you are and what you want.  It's okay to say what you want and don't want.


What You Can Do


Are you accepting crumbs and settling for less than you deserve?  Assess your situation and see how many Yes answers you have to the following:

  • Do they abuse you in ANY way (verbally, physically, emotionally, sexually)?
  • Do you feel like you have to be careful and “walk on eggshells” when you are with them?
  • Do you feel neglected by them, and that you are never their priority?
  • Do you have to be very careful what you say around them?
  • Does s/he take forever to respond to your texts?
  • Does s/he forget you on your birthday, anniversary or holidays?

What are the things that really matter to you, but don’t really matter to them? If those are deal-breakers, and you continue to accept the behavior, you are settling for crumbs, and may even be in a toxic relationship. 

Listen to your gut. Your intuition will tell you when something is not right.  You need to develop standards and enforce them as boundaries to teach others how to treat you.

Tell the other person what your rules of engagement or policies are. (Policies is used in the same way as standards or boundaries.) If someone accuses you of having an attitude or gives you other negative pushback about your standards, don’t let that dissuade you from enforcing them. You are simply weeding out toxic people that are no good for you! Otherwise, you risk having a crummy relationship wrapped up in heartache and frustration.

It may not be the right time for you to have a relationship—build up your confidence first so that you can define and articulate your standards to someone without fear of rejection. Take time out to get to know yourself and heal any open wounds from the past.


Samantha’s 10 Crucial Steps to Getting the Cake You Deserve


  1. Accepting late night phone calls.
  2. Accepting excuses for their tardiness.
  3. Accepting forgotten birthdays and holidays.
  4. Accepting disrespectful language.
  5. Accepting constant sexual innuendo.
  6. Accepting dates at home instead of going out.
  7. Accepting his temper tantrums, rage or extremely sensitive behavior.
  8. Accepting pressure to have sex when all you really want is intimacy.
  9. Accepting being invisible.
  10. Accepting being last on his list of priorities.



Connect with My Guest

Samantha Gregory, Blogger, Author, Speaker, Empowerment Coach





Links and Resources

Daree's worksheet: "10 Ways to Know You Love Yourself (Even if He Doesn't)"

No More Crumbs: How to Stop Dating (and Mating) for Crumbs and Get the Cake You Deserve in 10 Crucial Steps!


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